Mindset & Business: The one thing you’re not doing that’s holding you back.

Let’s get right to it. No need to read a whole blog post before I give you ‘the thing’ you came here to read. The thing you should be doing, that you’re not doing, is showing up.

Now I know, you might say, Barbara, but I AM fully showing up. I’m working my ass of every day, and giving it my all. I get home tired and do some more work there. I do all the tasks I am supposed to. What more do you expect me to do? I show up fully!

And now I’m here in this stupid blog post, writing that you’re not showing up.

Well, that’s not the kind of showing up that I mean.

When I say, to SHOW UP FULLY, this is what I actually mean.

You show up in a way that is you. You show up in a way where you do the things that you are meant to do, not the things you are supposed to do.

I 100% believe that you are doing plenty of things that you a) don’t really have to do (be honest here) or b) that you don’t really align with.

If you’re doing things in category a, it’s really just a waste of time. Let go of these things. I recommend that you write a list of the tasks you do, and wonder whether they all really need to be done. And if yes, do they really all need to be done by you? You have to work clever here if you’re going for success. It doesn’t make sense when you are a great business woman, that you are doing small stuff that anyone can do. You should be doing the things that YOU do so well.

There is also the b category. Where you do all these tasks that you know are not really where your heart is at. But for some reason you’ve begun to believe that you need to do these tasks. These tasks are really easy to identify:

1) They don’t give you energy

2) You don’t feel happy doing them

3) They leave you feeling unfulfilled

If you are doing any of these a or b tasks, then your work is cut out for you. You’re going to have to let these tasks go. Think creatively in the ways that you can let these tasks go. Is there someone you can hire to do the work for you? Is there an online tool or system that can minimize the work for you? Or what would happen if you just decide not to do the task anymore? Maybe there are parts of the task you can let go, making it less work.

Whatever it is, make sure that you let go of these tasks. Free up your time to do the most important thing: Show up 100% as you.

So what’s that one thing I was talking about that’s holding you back? It’s showing up for yourself in the area’s (and only the areas) where you are meant to show up and do your work. Stop hiding yourself behind other tasks or less significant work. Stop distracting yourself with things that are less important for you to do. Start doing the things that you NEED to do to achieve success.

So stop the excuses and show up. You already know everything you need to know to achieve that success. Go for it, I know you can.

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Stop for a moment and wonder & feel - a blog about Mindset

We have such fixed believes of who we are and who we are meant to be, that we stop looking at ourselves for who we truly are. We get so caught up in the believe that we 'are' a certain thing, that we don't stop to question, is this what I really want, is this who I feel I still truly am?

Here is the thing. We grow so much over the years. We see more things of the world, we get to know more people, we see new opportunities, life presents us with new opportunities. If we don't stop to question and wonder who we are in this whole process, we stay the same.

You might wonder, what's wrong with staying the same? Nothing! Nothing is wrong with staying the same, if it is a conscious choice that you want to stay the same.

It's something different if you're sleepwalking through life and suddenly find yourself old and gray and wondering what you did with your life.

So stop. Stop for a moment and wonder and feel. Is this what I want for my life. Is this who I feel deep down inside that I am meant to be? If yes, wonderful! If no, well, let's change things up a bit.

Do you remember how excited you could be as a child? Do you remember the feeling of anticipation growing inside of you as you were about to do something really exciting? Do you remember how you would jump up and down and run back and forth, just because all this excited energy was so hard to contain in your small physical body?

Now that we remember the real feeling of excitement and fun, let's look for it in our day to day life. Here's what you can do if you want to find out if you are living a life you love.

Grab a pen and paper and join me for this exercise.

Sit still, take a deep breath and relax into the moment. When you're ready and you're focused on yourself and you've let go of the outside things and you feel you start to slow down, slowly start going through your day. Think of the things that you do during the day. How do they make you feel? If anything profound comes up, feel free to open your eyes and write them down.

What things make you happy? What things do you dread?

When you're done going through your day, write down the things that you noticed. What makes you happy? Why does it make you feel happy? Can you do more of it in your day?

What makes you feel unhappy? Can you do less of it or do it in a different way so you don't have to feel as unhappy about it?

This was just a very short exercise to make you aware of how you feel about the things you do during the day. The real exercise is to FEEL throughout the day. To be present in your day and to start noticing how the thing you're doing makes you feel. Again and again, with every new activity.

Becoming aware is the first step. Then slowly you can try to present more of the fun stuff into your life and become creative around the things you don't like, so you don't have to do them as much. Because why would you?

An example of something that was really energy draining for me is cleaning. I really dislike

cleaning. But I do like to live in a somewhat clean house. You see how this requires cleaning, right?

So one of the first things I hired someone for, was cleaning. To me it's well worth paying someone to do that. In fact, I would pay to not do it..

So it makes sense to pay someone else to actually do it. Sometimes you hear people talking about how this hour that the cleaning lady cleans, you get to do your own work and make more money, blabla. Sure this is true. But to me, it doesn't matter if I work this hour extra while she cleans. To me it's about how happy it makes me not to do it. I get to do that for me. With or without working that extra hour.

You get to live life for you. You get to decide. Have fun creating a life you love!

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Stop for a moment and wonder & feel - a blog about Mindset

We have such fixed believes of who we are and who we are meant to be, that we stop looking at ourselves for who we truly are. We get so caught up in the believe that we 'are' a certain thing, that we don't stop to question, is this what I really want, is this who I feel I still truly am?

Here is the thing. We grow so much over the years. We see more things of the world, we get to know more people, we see new opportunities, life presents us with new opportunities. If we don't stop to question and wonder who we are in this whole process, we stay the same.

You might wonder, what's wrong with staying the same? Nothing! Nothing is wrong with staying the same, if it is a conscious choice that you want to stay the same.

It's something different if you're sleepwalking through life and suddenly find yourself old and gray and wondering what you did with your life.

So stop. Stop for a moment and wonder and feel. Is this what I want for my life. Is this who I feel deep down inside that I am meant to be? If yes, wonderful! If no, well, let's change things up a bit.

Do you remember how excited you could be as a child? Do you remember the feeling of anticipation growing inside of you as you were about to do something really exciting? Do you remember how you would jump up and down and run back and forth, just because all this excited energy was so hard to contain in your small physical body?

Now that we remember the real feeling of excitement and fun, let's look for it in our day to day life. Here's what you can do if you want to find out if you are living a life you love.

Grab a pen and paper and join me for this exercise.

Sit still, take a deep breath and relax into the moment. When you're ready and you're focused on yourself and you've let go of the outside things and you feel you start to slow down, slowly start going through your day. Think of the things that you do during the day. How do they make you feel? If anything profound comes up, feel free to open your eyes and write them down.

What things make you happy? What things do you dread?

When you're done going through your day, write down the things that you noticed. What makes you happy? Why does it make you feel happy? Can you do more of it in your day?

What makes you feel unhappy? Can you do less of it or do it in a different way so you don't have to feel as unhappy about it?

This was just a very short exercise to make you aware of how you feel about the things you do during the day. The real exercise is to FEEL throughout the day. To be present in your day and to start noticing how the thing you're doing makes you feel. Again and again, with every new activity.

Becoming aware is the first step. Then slowly you can try to present more of the fun stuff into your life and become creative around the things you don't like, so you don't have to do them as much. Because why would you?

An example of something that was really energy draining for me is cleaning. I really dislike

cleaning. But I do like to live in a somewhat clean house. You see how this requires cleaning, right?

So one of the first things I hired someone for, was cleaning. To me it's well worth paying someone to do that. In fact, I would pay to not do it..

So it makes sense to pay someone else to actually do it. Sometimes you hear people talking about how this hour that the cleaning lady cleans, you get to do your own work and make more money, blabla. Sure this is true. But to me, it doesn't matter if I work this hour extra while she cleans. To me it's about how happy it makes me not to do it. I get to do that for me. With or without working that extra hour.

You get to live life for you. You get to decide. Have fun creating a life you love!

Want to know more? Follow my free training!

I want that free training!